Yes You Are Doing More Work and Yes There Is Something You Can Do About It
How To Talk to Your Kids So They Will Listen
A common complaint among working moms is that their husbands don’t carry their weight in the house and with the kids.
The good news/bad news is that scientific research has validated our feelings.
In an op-ed in the LA Times from Mother’s Day 2015, Amanda Marcotte, citing a study done by the Council on Contemporary Families, writes:
“The council collected a number of studies that, taken together, squelch the idea that modern marriage is a wonderland of equality. Among the findings: Married mothers do more than three times as much cooking, cleaning and laundry than married fathers. Men have more than an hour more leisure time a day than women. Men and women both — no doubt trying to feel good about their relationships — overestimate how much housework men actually do.”
There is a popular saying that states: “The meaning of any piece of communication is the response you get.”
What this means is that you are actually responsible for being sure that your communication lands the way you intended it to, and if it doesn’t, you are also responsible for adjusting your communication to be sure that it does.
Including with your kids.
Here’s how things usually go:
Mom, calling from the other room, or peeking around the doorway: "Come to dinner," "Please get ready for bed," "Get your shoes on,” “Brush your teeth.”
10 minutes later mom comes back in to find kid still on iPad/Xbox/Legos/book…
Mom loses shit.
Here’s where the communication breakdown occurs: