I've been in therapy a number of times. How is coaching any different?
I like to think of it like this: therapy takes you where you are now, and digs into your past to try to understand how and why you think, feel, and act the way you do.
Therapy is introspective and clarifying.
Coaching takes you where you are now and moves you forward into a future of your own design. Sure, there's some past-digging to do, because usually the things that block us have to do with stuff we've been through, or stories we've made up about ourselves due to past experiences.
Coaching is actionable and transformational.
I've had a number of clients who've been in therapy for years but got to a place where they thought, "OK, yeah, I get it all, but now what??" I find these clients to be my biggest success stories, and the ones who make the biggest leaps in the shortest period of time.
I've had a number of clients who were in therapy for years, and within a few weeks of coaching have said, "Wow. In all my years of therapy, I never felt such huge shifts."
I find the most effective process usually includes both therapy and coaching, or some combination of the two.
What if I've never been in therapy?
I believe everyone should be in therapy, at least once in their lives. That being said, if you've never been in therapy, coaching may still work well for you. When we have our consult, I'll be better able to assess whether I feel coaching or therapy is your best next step, and if I believe I can help you. If I think I can help you, I may also recommend therapy, depending on the specific issues you're dealing with.
At their cores, coaching and therapy are two different practices. If something comes up in our work together that I believe is therapy-related, I will tell you so straight up. I may even suspend coaching until you've seen a therapist if I believe the issue is important enough.
What are your office hours?
I speak with clients on Mondays and Tuesdays. I do new client consults on Wednesdays, and leave Thursdays and Fridays for writing and other administrative projects.
I'm based in Los Angeles, and have times available as early as 8am PST and as late as 5pm PST.
The beauty of coaching is that it's all done over the phone. While therapists' licensing laws require that their work be done face-to-face, and that their patients are in the same state, coaches don't have the same restrictions. I have coached women from all over the USA and in other countries. As long as we can find a time on our calendars that we can make work, we can work together.
What if I'm in another state or country?
God no! I've even saved a few marriages in my time. What I ask is that my clients take full responsibility for where they feel their marriages are failing, and stop blaming their spouse for all their problems. Sometimes this leads to healing, and sometimes it doesn't.
For clients who've ended up leaving their marriages, the level of personal responsibility they've taken in our work together helps them create a far more amicable divorce process.
Do all your clients get divorced?
Yes. I can.
While it's true that I advocate for as much collaboration as possible, when it's not possible, I advocate for distance and safety above all else.
Primarily, I help women heal from codependency. I help them find their voices, find themselves, recreate their lives in midlife and beyond. Those of us who've been married to narcissists usually came to those relationships quite naturally, and most of us suffer a particular brand of codependence I know all too well.
I have over 20 years experience with my own codependency recovery, as well as a decade's worth of experience helping women just like you heal, become deeply self-empowered, and raise amazing children. They may not have the most collaborative co-parenting experiences, but above all else, they are happy.
My ex is a malignant narcissist. You talk a lot about collaboration.
Can you help me?
Coaching is expensive, and unlike therapy, health insurance doesn't cover it. And that sucks for all of us.
I keep my rates very low because I don't believe this work should be a rich woman's game. I know coaches who charge 3-4 times what I do, and it just doesn't sit right with me, especially for what I do. That being said, I also need to make a living and be able to provide fantastic service to my clients. I can't teach women to know and command their own worth if I undermine my own.
It is my goal to be able to afford to offer a scholarship program by the end of 2018, but in the meantime, I do offer a payment plan if that helps (I know it doesn't help everyone).
Coaching is expensive. Do you offer discounts or scholarships?
Have questions not answered here?
Contact me and ask away!