Module 2, Week 2

It’s time to get deep, Loves. This week we dive into the worlds of emotional and narcissistic abuse. If you find this week difficult, be sure to have your therapist on speed-dial, and stay closely connected in our group.


Emotional + Narcissistic abuse intro

Run time: 3:21


uncovering Emotional abuse with rhian lockard

Run time: 1:00:18


Understanding narcissistic abuse with dr. Linda Bortell

Run time: 53:38



Head on over to Facebook to share your experience with this week’s work!


Resources


Rhian Lockard’s YouTube Channel for more about emotional abuse.

Often after watching some of the videos about emotional abuse, women begin to wonder if in fact they’re the abuser in their marriage. Rhian addresses this in her video, Am I The Abuser?

Al-Anon Family Groups “Living with a spouse, partner or significant other who exhibits a drinking problem can have devastating effects on our emotional well-being, our personal relationships, our professional life and sometimes even our physical health. Attending Al-Anon Family Group meetings might provide the support and tools needed to deal with the effects of alcoholism on very important relationships.”

MAGIC Words: How To Get What You Want From a Narcissist by Lindsey Ellison. Power Play: Out Smart, Out Maneuver and Utterly Confound a NarcissistIf you are locked into a relationship with a narcissist, such as an employer, a high conflict partner, an ex-spouse with shared custody, or perhaps a family member, this book is for you. Based upon years of research and experience coaching victims of narcissistic abuse, Lindsey Ellison has masterminded a communication strategy that will allow you to protect your interests without conflict or drama. Lindsey has created a deft, intelligently-crafted script you can use to neutralize the power struggle. Her practical, step-by-step guide offers simple, yet life-changing strategies that inspire cooperation. This book provides templates for communication that deescalate and neutralize previously combative and emotionally-charged exchanges. Whether you communicate via text, e-mail, or in-person, “MAGIC Words” will offer you the chance to influence the dynamic between you and your narcissist for the better.

Lindsey Ellison on The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Co-Dependents Anonymous

Am I Codependent?

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself  by Melanie Beattie. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More.The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.

With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.

Why I’m Giving Up My Amicable Divorce - an article I wrote in HuffPo when I finally began to see the depths of the emotional abuse I suffered.

Because We Don’t Have Bruises - article I wrote under a pseudonym after the fallout of the one on HuffPo.

Is This Abuse? - Scroll down and select the tabs to read about various forms of abuse

DivorceWorks - App by Dr. Linda Bortell. DivorceWorks was designed by two psychologists with 3 decades of experience with families going through separation and divorce. With a focus on emotional awareness and regulation, the app assists with coping during this difficult time. DivorceWorks includes features to help parents transition mindfully, to a new and happy reconfiguration of family and self.