Module 3, Week 2
This week we are diving into COMMUNICATION!! What does healthy communication actually look and feel like?
As a communication expert, I’m here to tell you!
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the science of communication
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Around this time in the course, I’m often asked what a healthy relationship, even looks like! To help answer this question, I brought in my dear friend, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Joshua Beckett, for a rich conversation (which starts with letting you all in on the secret of how Joshua and I first met!).
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Watch the video below from the Gottman Institute. John Gottman is the only person on the planet to have studied relationships scientifically in his Seattle-based Love Lab. He's basically the Godfather of all couple's therapy and relationship coaching. Just about everything we do is based on his work and studies, and Joshua and I speak about this in our interview above.
“Certain negative communication styles are so lethal to a relationship that Dr. John Gottman calls them the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. They predict relationship failure with over 90% accuracy if the behavior isn't changed. So, what can you do? Practice these four research-based antidotes to save your relationship from certain destruction.”
Gottman's The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: These are the four predictors of the demise of any relationship as outlined in the video above, with more in-depth info on each.
Six Tips to Better Communication: Simple but effective ways to ensure you get heard, from Psychology Today.
Here's something I wrote about how to get your husband to help in the house. But it's actually all about communication.
Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D.
“One of the fastest growing approaches to psychotherapy. It has developed over the past twenty years into a way of understanding and treating human problems that is empowering, effective and nonpathologizing.” (Amazon)
You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D.
“This book beautifully navigates the ability to not only communicate with and understand the many parts of an individual's internal experience, but also gives valuable insight and guidance as to how to then incorporate this process within the context of intimate partner distress. The book is well written, flows nicely, and is an excellent resource for both the therapist and for the client/relationship. The additional case study examples add depth to the therapist's ability to further navigate the greater systemic work between couples. It is one of the most powerful and insightful reads I have ever encountered and will most definitely be integrated within my work with both individuals and couples.” (Amazon)